365 Ways to Say “I love you”

We say those words a lot at home, and frankly it often means something a little different than a simple sentiment of fondness. Sometimes it means “I’m sorry”, or “Wow! You are amazing!” It can even mean “Thank you” if the occasion is right.

But sometimes, the words are just not enough and this is one case where actions really do speak louder.

So, what is the very best way to say “I love you” without using your words?

Listen.

Put down your work, look ’em in the eye, and just…

Listen.

Don’t start talking now. Wait for the person to finish speaking, plus a count of three or four (just to be sure they’re done with the idea.)

Now, ask a question that shows you are paying attention, and …

Listen.

And did you know, listening is good for both of you? It raises oxytocin levels for both the active listener and the person being heard. That’s a win-win for everyone!

PLUS you get to hear all kinds of things you maybe never knew about the person you are listening to. Stories that might never be told again about places and people, happenings that were, or are, important to them. Things they need to share with you. Interrupting at this point feels like a punch in the gut, and says the opposite of “I love you”.

So keep listening.

Don’t get sidetracked and start telling your own story, or giving advice. Right now, you are just listening to understand.

Body language is important, too. This is not a good time to multi-task. Put down your work and turn towards the person. This also makes eye contact a little easier.

Do you have a minute? Think of someone in your life who could use a listening ear and call them! Practice your active listening skills during your chat and you just made someone’s day. Yes, I just told you to call your Mom if you can, for no special reason… just…

Listen, it’s a great way to say “I love you” without words.